Finding the venue for your wedding is fraught with potential problems from the onset. The secret to getting what you want is flexibility and remembering becoming a married couple is the main focus.
So where to start?
1 KNOW WHAT YOU'RE LOOKING FOR
2 KNOW YOUR NUMBERS
3 KNOW YOUR BUDGET
4 KNOW WHEN & WHERE TO COMPROMISE
5 KNOW WHAT YOU'RE GETTING
Here is a link to a good checklist of relevant questions to ask at each venue:
6 KNOW WHAT'S IN THE FINE PRINT
7 KNOW IT'S NOT "WHERE" BUT "WHO"
Don't get too bogged down in finding the perfect venue so that you both become stressed out.
The most important thing is on an agreed date the two of you will legally seal your love and commitment to each other. The location is secondary.
Here is a video a couple speaking candidly about planning their wedding, including the stress of finding the right venue. I hope you find it helpful and underlines some of my tips above.